At the heart of relational psychotherapeutic approaches’ is a belief that human beings are born with an intrinsic desire for intimacy and attachment. The world that we inhabit is endlessly unpredictable and the impact on relationships results inevitably in human suffering. As psychotherapists our focus is on the phenomenological worlds of our clients as we attempt to understand the nature of their specific suffering. In doing so our emotional equilibrium can de disrupted and our diagnostic frameworks offer support in the face of what might be unbearable. In this experiential and practical workshop participants will be given opportunities to focus on meaning making in more complex ways than merely as ‘a knowing' clinician labelling phenomena into diagnostic categories as they emerge. Rather, emphasis will be placed on focussing on the aesthetics of each relational situation to find a deeper emotional understanding guided loosely by our diagnostic knowledge.